'Love & Hip Hop New York' Erica Mena, Bow Wow Sex Life And Teairra Mari Beef, Model Tells Singer 'You’re Not Like That In Real Life' : MStarsNews

In an exclusive interview with Vibe, Love & Hip Hop New York star Erica Mena opens up about her sex life with fiancé and host of 106 & Park, Shad Moss (Bow Wow), what to expect on the new (and her final) season of Love & Hip Hop New York and how reality TV stars like Teairra Mari just act "big and tough" for the cameras. (Shade!)

First, Erica dishes on what we will see on this upcoming season of Love & Hip Hop New York.

"Just everything. You're also gonna see that when put in situations that could have possibly been altercations, not become one, because I walked away from it. Since the Kimbella situation, my whole thing has been about redemption. I know the mistakes I made, and I go so hard to try and fix them, but at the same time, I'm a human being. So as I'm fixing one mistake, I'm probably gonna make a few others. I get bashed for it, obviously, but it's not uncommon to see a crazy Puerto Rican wild out if you cross her over. It's actually more realistic than anything else. And look at me now, I'm engaged and I still didn't change who I was."

A lot of people think that Love & Hip Hop is perpetuating a negative image of women. Erica clarifies that it's not Love & Hip Hop but the women themselves.

"It's really not Love & Hip Hop, it's the people that come in. I can't specify this enough: when cameras go on, everybody wanna be big and tough. You're not like that in real life. Like, even this season, Teairra Mari was fucking screaming and running when I fought Kimbella, now this season, you're so Detroit? And even if that is who you are, why weren't you [that way] back then? Maybe you probably would've made a hit by now. When I came into it, I was a young girl, getting out of an extremely abusive relationship. Once I got out, I had this mentality that I have to now try to protect the little girl that I couldn't protect then. So what you guys saw then was someone that was really lashing out because she was hurting, she didn't know how to deal with things. I had just left a man I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with, had a kid, homeless, had to literally start from scratch. At the same time, I was releasing all the anger I had in me every time I got my a-- beat. It's not right, I'm not justifying it, but that's just really what it is. So now, when I see girls come on and not be who they are, it makes the show look scripted, because this is not who the fuck you are."

Erica also mentions who she thinks is the "realest" cast member of this season's Love and Hip Hop Hollywood.

"I will say this, and I don't care what no one says about her, the realest one on there to me is Hazel. Whether she is in denial about what the relationship was, one thing about a woman is, whether you're fucking her or not, you obviously made her feel that way. And she's being honest about her feelings towards this particular gentleman. She's the only one that's actually shed a tear, and she's the only one that you feel like really feels anything. It's okay to be human."

Erica confirms that Mona Scott-Young doesn't give the cast directions on what to do during filming.

"Oh no. And on my scenes, I got this down pat. From the start, Mona used to be on set for all my scenes. Now, I hardly see Mona. It's like 'Oh, it's Erica's scene? I got the day off.' It's so easy for me. But she doesn't. The only thing is that, obviously, if I don't like you, I'm not gonna invite you to dinner, but in order for America to know I don't like you and to hear what I have to say to you, I'm gonna invite you to dinner. Stuff like that is common sense. It's put together so that the show can be created, ultimately. But what you say, what you do, last time I checked, she's never done that once with me. Not once."

As for her soon-to-be hubby, growing up as "Lil Bow Wow," it takes people time to see him as a grown man. Erica, however, quickly comes to her man's defense.

"Well that's because none of his dick pics have been leaked before."

Erica confirms that Bow Wow is indeed a grown man and is quite "dominant in bed."

"Oh yeah. Yeah, absolutely. And that's crazy. 'Cause you know how you're like, they see him as Lil' Bow Wow? I become Lil' Erica with him."

Erica goes on to explain that Bow Wow knows how to tame her, like no one else.

"I'm very submissive with him. Very. He'll give me look. It's like whatever he wants. I don't know why. It's hard to explain. He makes the rules. He's in charge. He has control. I don't know, it's just the way he is. He doesn't play no games. And I think I just have so much respect for him more than anything. That's what it is, once you find a man that loves you, you instantly have no choice but to give him all the respect in the world. That's our role as women when we come into a relationship, to respect and honor your man. I never once respected someone as much as I respect him. That naturally keeps me in my place."